Spin the Wheel

“Wherever you want is fine.”

Translation: “I have preferences, but I’m tired and I don’t want to negotiate.”

This is one of the biggest causes of “we drove around for 25 minutes and still didn’t eat.” If you want a fast win, don’t ask for unlimited options. Give two that feel different enough.

• Option A: quick and casual (in-and-out, low commitment)
• Option B: sit-down and relaxing (slower, but everyone decompresses)

“You pick.”

Translation: “I’ll support your choice… unless it’s the wrong one.”

“You pick” usually means decision fatigue. The best move is to pick something neutral: familiar, reliable, and not overly niche. Then give a short window for objections.

“I’m picking two. If nobody objects in 10 seconds, we go.”

“Oh no, not there.”

Translation: “I have an opinion; I just didn’t say it until you guessed wrong.”

Vetoes are allowed — but they must be productive. Otherwise you spiral into “not that / not that / not that” until everyone is upset.

“If you veto, you propose the replacement. That’s the deal.”

“Anything is fine.”

Translation: “I don’t want to be responsible for the decision.”

If you hear this, narrow it down with one follow-up question that has a clear answer: “Quick or sit-down?” or “Spicy or not spicy?” You’re not gathering opinions — you’re unlocking a direction.

“I’m not that hungry.”

Translation: “I can wait, but everyone else can’t.”

This is where snacks and indecision collide. The simplest approach: pick a place that won’t feel wasteful if they only eat a little. Light menus and quick service win here.

“I’m starving.”

Translation: “Decision time is over.”

When someone says this, the debate is already costing you. Spin the wheel above, commit, and stop negotiating cuisine categories while hunger turns everyone into a critic.